This is for all the girls that have ever been told they were quiet.
I specifically remember sitting in my 8th grade English class that was mostly filled with the “popular” crowd, when one of the popular boys turned to me and said (first words he had ever said to me), “You’re so quiet. Do you ever talk?”
No. I never talk. I am practicing for my lucrative career as a one woman mime show.
I just wanted to say- Yes, yes I do talk and if you only knew me you would know that once I get going, I actually talk a lot. And get this, sometimes I’m even funny.
But, instead I said, “Yeah.” And that was it. End of conversation. And we never spoke to each other again.
That’s not the first person to ever call me quiet. I’ll admit I was a bit shy and reserved as a teen in fear of saying something wrong or stupid. But I have always wondered why someone that has never talked to you before would start out with, “Do you ever talk?” or something along those lines.
When you tell someone that they are quite:
You are making the “quiet person” feel like something is wrong with them and you’re pretty much making them be even MORE quite. Actually you’re making them want to crawl under a rock.
Why not start out with:
Hey, I don’t think we’ve really talked before. What’s up? Or- Crazy weather we’re having, huh? Or even- Do you like the color blue? Anything, ANYTHING but- You never talk, you’re quite, or do you ever talk?
Okay, rant over.
So to all you “quiet” girls out there…
Go ahead and keep being quiet. Let your light shine for those who know the REAL you.